Reasons Men Go AWOL
1) Rebound - If he isn't over his ex yet ,chances are he wont be ready for a real relationship, so let him go and find someone who doesn't have the rebound bug.
2) Deal Breaker - You have committed one of his relationship sins without realising it, but if he doesn't like you for who you are he is simply not worth it anyway.
3) Status Anxiety - The Facebook status that says 'in a relationship' after just one date may prove too much too soon for the poor chap, so hold back on any status updates or bragging to everyone about your new 'boyfriend' until you both have the chat about where you are in the relationship.
4) Insecurity - He may have lost all trust in women due to a bad previous relationship, or been cheated on. Don't rush things and let him build up his trust in you. Patience is a virtue and you need to show him your there to stay and like him for who he is.
5) Those 3 Words - Saying 'I love you' too early in a relationship can cause it to turn on its head, so be careful muttering those words at the beginning. The sudden rush of a crush and lust can often get too confused with love in the early stages.
6) Genuine Number Loss - If you wrote your number down on his arm or a piece of paper, chances are he actually lost it. Men can be quite useless when comes to remembering numbers or where they put them. Make sure you both exchange numbers and save into your phones, that way if you haven't heard from him, drop him a text and take control.
7) He's a Player - Ah ,the serial dating addict. He makes you feel like your special and the only one he's interested in, when in actual fact he has about 2 dates a week and is enjoying playing the field too much. Let this one go fast!
8) Permanent Bachelor Boy - not to be confused with a player, they have been single pretty much always and whilst they like the notion of having a girlfriend they can't seem to turn that into reality for long. Don't waste too much time with these.
9) Science - Two people need chemistry to work and if it's just not there there's no point worrying, as its something that cannot be forced.
10) He's Just Not That Into You- Just like in the film, sometimes a guy can come across interested but then change his mind the following day. It's not your fault and nothing you have done, it's just a simple case of he wasn't that into you.
If you're having any of these AWOL issues, decide whether or not he's worth it and if it can be fixed.If not don't worry your pretty head and move on. Plenty more frogs out there for you to kiss in your search for your Prince.
2) Deal Breaker - You have committed one of his relationship sins without realising it, but if he doesn't like you for who you are he is simply not worth it anyway.
3) Status Anxiety - The Facebook status that says 'in a relationship' after just one date may prove too much too soon for the poor chap, so hold back on any status updates or bragging to everyone about your new 'boyfriend' until you both have the chat about where you are in the relationship.
4) Insecurity - He may have lost all trust in women due to a bad previous relationship, or been cheated on. Don't rush things and let him build up his trust in you. Patience is a virtue and you need to show him your there to stay and like him for who he is.
5) Those 3 Words - Saying 'I love you' too early in a relationship can cause it to turn on its head, so be careful muttering those words at the beginning. The sudden rush of a crush and lust can often get too confused with love in the early stages.
6) Genuine Number Loss - If you wrote your number down on his arm or a piece of paper, chances are he actually lost it. Men can be quite useless when comes to remembering numbers or where they put them. Make sure you both exchange numbers and save into your phones, that way if you haven't heard from him, drop him a text and take control.
7) He's a Player - Ah ,the serial dating addict. He makes you feel like your special and the only one he's interested in, when in actual fact he has about 2 dates a week and is enjoying playing the field too much. Let this one go fast!
8) Permanent Bachelor Boy - not to be confused with a player, they have been single pretty much always and whilst they like the notion of having a girlfriend they can't seem to turn that into reality for long. Don't waste too much time with these.
9) Science - Two people need chemistry to work and if it's just not there there's no point worrying, as its something that cannot be forced.
10) He's Just Not That Into You- Just like in the film, sometimes a guy can come across interested but then change his mind the following day. It's not your fault and nothing you have done, it's just a simple case of he wasn't that into you.
If you're having any of these AWOL issues, decide whether or not he's worth it and if it can be fixed.If not don't worry your pretty head and move on. Plenty more frogs out there for you to kiss in your search for your Prince.
Boyfriend Wars
The battle of the best boyrfiend is ALWAYS on. Yes us girlies really are that competitive!
We constantly compete with our other friend's in the 'mine's better than yours' competition.
Have you ever noticed that whenever your beloved does something really nice for you, you take a mental note of what he's done so that you can bring it up with another girlfriend next time she's bragging about her boyfriend?
From being kids we all have been guilty at one point or another of saying the 'my dad's better than yours' speech, so it comes as no surprise that we do it with our fella's later in life.
Girls compete for almost anything, from better hair, nails, shoes and...boyfriends!
Our tactics come either directly ( face to face bragging), or indirectly (texts and facebook statuses).
Ways to Win the War:-
Girl 1: 'My boyfriend cooked tea for me.'
Girl 2: 'My boyfriend took me out for a fancy meal.'
Girl 2 wins.
Girl 3: 'We made love all last night.'
Girl 4: ' We had sex 3 times last night and I could barely walk he's that big.'
Girl 4 wins.
Girl 5: 'My boyfriend is taking me to Chester Zoo.'
Girl 6: 'Mine has booked a romantic weekend away.'
Girl 6 wins.
Whilst there is nothing wrong with anything the above boyfriends could have done, we still need our boyfriends to be better than our friends' boyfriends.
So come on boys, help your girlfriend out and getting booking that table or trip!
We constantly compete with our other friend's in the 'mine's better than yours' competition.
Have you ever noticed that whenever your beloved does something really nice for you, you take a mental note of what he's done so that you can bring it up with another girlfriend next time she's bragging about her boyfriend?
From being kids we all have been guilty at one point or another of saying the 'my dad's better than yours' speech, so it comes as no surprise that we do it with our fella's later in life.
Girls compete for almost anything, from better hair, nails, shoes and...boyfriends!
Our tactics come either directly ( face to face bragging), or indirectly (texts and facebook statuses).
Ways to Win the War:-
Girl 1: 'My boyfriend cooked tea for me.'
Girl 2: 'My boyfriend took me out for a fancy meal.'
Girl 2 wins.
Girl 3: 'We made love all last night.'
Girl 4: ' We had sex 3 times last night and I could barely walk he's that big.'
Girl 4 wins.
Girl 5: 'My boyfriend is taking me to Chester Zoo.'
Girl 6: 'Mine has booked a romantic weekend away.'
Girl 6 wins.
Whilst there is nothing wrong with anything the above boyfriends could have done, we still need our boyfriends to be better than our friends' boyfriends.
So come on boys, help your girlfriend out and getting booking that table or trip!
Relationship Fundamentals
Every relationship needs a good foundation in order to last and be happy. It's these building blocks at the base of a relationship that are the fundamentals and basics that are necessary to succeed with a partnership.
The 7 Fundamentals are:-
1) COMMITMENT.
"Unless commitment is made, there are only promises and hopes, but no plans." - Peter F.Drucker
If you can show you are both committed to the relationship, it allows a strong foundation to grow and ensures you put the relationship before you own needs and wants.
2) COMMUNICATION.
"Trust is the glue of life. It's the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It's the foundational principle that holds all relationships." - Stephen R.Covey
The most common relationship problems stem from poor communication. Bottling up issues and feelings leads to arguments rather than discussions. You don't have to chat about feelings everyday, but should check in with each other to make sure your relationship is on track. Lack of communicating can take you on a path with less intimacy or closeness. So keep each other in your lives by talking and keeping the communication going.
3) COURAGE.
"Without courage, all other virtues lose their meaning." - Winston Churchill.
Having courage in a relationship is about the confidence you have to bring yourself into the relationship. To not falter and give up on yourself and face life together, without losing yourself along the way.
4) CONNECTION.
"This time when we kiss, I feel it in the pit of my stomach, I feel it in my heart. And I realise love isn't about sex - It's about connection." - Ellen Hopkins.
By having shown you are committed and communicating with your partner, already you have a connection with them. Keep the bond and connection strong between you by talking, knowing who they are and what they're about and being by their side in times of need.
5) COMPANIONSHIP.
"It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages." - Friedrich Nietzsche.
A relationship cannot survive with just love and intimacy. IT also needs a good and long lasting friendship. Partners need to like each other and enjoy each others company for it to work in the long run.
6) COMPROMISE.
"Learn the wisdom of compromise, for it is better to bend a little than to break." - Jane Wells.
Everyone is an individual and as a couple there will often be times that each person has a different solution or opinion. Learning to meet in the middle with your partner and compromise, will ensure it carrys on being a solid relationship. It takes practice and involves good communication, but by meeting half way, you avoid any neglect or one sided resentment.
7) COMPASSION.
"Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries.Without them humanity cannot survive." - Dalai Lama.
To love you partner also involves the ability to understand them and listen and empathise. It is part of being caring and showing kindness to each other and ensures behaviour and treatment to each other remains good and balanced.
The 7 Fundamentals are:-
1) COMMITMENT.
"Unless commitment is made, there are only promises and hopes, but no plans." - Peter F.Drucker
If you can show you are both committed to the relationship, it allows a strong foundation to grow and ensures you put the relationship before you own needs and wants.
2) COMMUNICATION.
"Trust is the glue of life. It's the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It's the foundational principle that holds all relationships." - Stephen R.Covey
The most common relationship problems stem from poor communication. Bottling up issues and feelings leads to arguments rather than discussions. You don't have to chat about feelings everyday, but should check in with each other to make sure your relationship is on track. Lack of communicating can take you on a path with less intimacy or closeness. So keep each other in your lives by talking and keeping the communication going.
3) COURAGE.
"Without courage, all other virtues lose their meaning." - Winston Churchill.
Having courage in a relationship is about the confidence you have to bring yourself into the relationship. To not falter and give up on yourself and face life together, without losing yourself along the way.
4) CONNECTION.
"This time when we kiss, I feel it in the pit of my stomach, I feel it in my heart. And I realise love isn't about sex - It's about connection." - Ellen Hopkins.
By having shown you are committed and communicating with your partner, already you have a connection with them. Keep the bond and connection strong between you by talking, knowing who they are and what they're about and being by their side in times of need.
5) COMPANIONSHIP.
"It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages." - Friedrich Nietzsche.
A relationship cannot survive with just love and intimacy. IT also needs a good and long lasting friendship. Partners need to like each other and enjoy each others company for it to work in the long run.
6) COMPROMISE.
"Learn the wisdom of compromise, for it is better to bend a little than to break." - Jane Wells.
Everyone is an individual and as a couple there will often be times that each person has a different solution or opinion. Learning to meet in the middle with your partner and compromise, will ensure it carrys on being a solid relationship. It takes practice and involves good communication, but by meeting half way, you avoid any neglect or one sided resentment.
7) COMPASSION.
"Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries.Without them humanity cannot survive." - Dalai Lama.
To love you partner also involves the ability to understand them and listen and empathise. It is part of being caring and showing kindness to each other and ensures behaviour and treatment to each other remains good and balanced.
